If you are an Original, with your own ideas, keep reading:
When my husband and I married, we were disappointed with the array of officiants. available to conduct our ceremony.
Some were religious. Others were just, well, stale. Many of them used recycled elements . readings that were in our opinion WAY overused. They focused on rituals that we had seen over and over (even doing the same ones for multiple clients) and we just didnt want that! We wanted something that expressed what we felt about each other,. with words that telegraphed our intentions, and symbolism that was about us and our relationship. We wanted inclusion, and a sense of community rather than formality.
We knew that this was a special moment that we were actually changing our identity, and we really wanted to make a statement.
Thats why well we designed our own ceremony. Then we found a civil officiant who would help us present it.
We wrote our own vows (and really, the entire ceremony). We invited our guests to share their sentiments. We gathered in a small chapel where we could be surrounded by only our closest friends and family. We hand-picked music that we felt was about us. Part of our celebration centered on a local art studio, which we felt summed up the creativity that is a focus of our life together. We didnt have bridesmaids or groomsmen, or any recognizable liturgy. We were just authentically ourselves.
It was perfect.
